Sometimes life can get a little boring. You don’t feel excited anymore. Life feels pretty mundane and full of routines. You eat pretty much the same thing for breakfast, commute the same route five days a week and alternate between 10 outfits and two pairs of shoes. When you have some free time, you flick through photos and scroll down your smartphone screen just to see what everybody else is up to. You wish you were somewhere else and doing something else. But somehow you’re not sure what you’d be doing. What you know is — you wish life was more exciting.
We all have been there at one point in our life. Sometimes it lasts for a few days. Sometimes it lasts for years. But isn’t it the most undesirable feeling ever to feel that your life is not exciting anymore? You don’t have anything to look forward to tomorrow. You just want to go to work, get it over and done with, so that you have enough money to pay the bills.
I believe in living with passion and have been told on three different occasions now by my best friends that by having me by their sides their lives become more exciting. So since it’s what I’m naturally good at, I’d like to pass on some tips to those of you who might feel a little stuck and bored with life. Try one of these or all of them — you will instantly feel like life is exciting again. One thing they all have in common though — they require you to break out of your comfort zone.
1. Pick up a new hobby
We all have hobbies. They are the things we enjoy doing in our spare time when we are not working. We release our stress and gain joy through our hobbies.
Not only is a new hobby another way to add more joy and fun into your life, it can also make life feel more exciting with the new challenges you have to face. Plus, by breaking out of your comfort zone and achieving new goals, you will gain self-confidence and feel proud of yourself. You will meet new people who are passionate about something different from your old peers. This is probably the key turning point when the new interest might shed you light on something. The new friends you make might give you a new perspective on life and living. The things you didn’t think were beautiful before are now seen as beautiful in your eyes.
As your new passion grows stronger, you’ll start to have a whole lot of other plans with it. You’ll start planning hiking trips after spending three months mastering the art of hiking in your hometown. You will want to go to places where you can surf since you can now surf. You’ll start waking up early because the practice of yoga inspires you to do so. You will spend your free time looking up design websites and pages for inspiration because you are now obsessed with making your own art.
Suddenly life seems exciting again. By picking up a new hobby, you’re actually putting a new pair of lens on your eyes.
2. Take a class and learn something new
This is similar to taking up a new hobby. However, taking a course in something is more about learning and taking in, rather than taking actions and having fun. It involves teachers and students. Examples of such courses are language classes, cooking classes, art classes, or singing lessons.
Unlike taking up a new hobby, learning is all about progressing. The main benefit of this besides having a new skill set is a sense of fulfillment, pride, and satisfaction with yourself.
If you have always wanted to learn something but never had time, take this chance to learn something new. Take a class. Never leave it too late that it becomes a regret.
Plus, after having learned something new, you will want to see more of the world and go to places where you can now experience that passion.
When life feels mundane, take a class. The new challenge will keep you busy and inspired.
3. Change job
Isn’t there anything worse than hating your job? If you dread going to work, it’s like you dread living your life. Your job should be something that you enjoy doing, something that you’re good at, and something that gives you a sense of pride besides helping you pay bills.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of feeling like you’re stuck in a job and there’s no other way out. We often get scared of change. The unknown makes us feel insecure. The first step you need to do is to get rid of the fear of not having a stable income. If you don’t have any savings at all, then save first. But in that process, build your self-belief and get into the habit of living within your mean. Once you’ve done that, start looking for a new job. Don’t be scared of change. Opportunities come to those who live with their arms wide open. Don’t close the door.
4. Do something totally different for a living
Sometimes finding a new job in the same field is not enough. Even though your experience and skill set is valuable to the industry, you can get bored with it after doing it for 10 years. If you’re totally up for the challenge, consider moving to another industry. Do something totally different from what you had been doing for the past 10 years. If you are a bored banker, why don’t you consider working in hospitality or technology? If you are a stressed lawyer, why don’t you consider becoming a writer instead?
It’s true that most of the people in a similar profession are wired similarly. Moving to a different industry, you might adopt a new perspective on life. Moreover, you will find yourself a ton of new friends and your life will start to feel exciting again.
The quickest way to get excited again is to travel. Travel opens your eyes and inspires your senses. Travel means experiencing, seeing, smelling, and hearing new things. If you feel bored with life, you should consider quitting your job and go traveling. Pick somewhere cheap and fun like South East Asia or South America. The people you’ll meet, the places you’ll see, the food you’ll eat — all the things you get to do when you travel are the things that stay in your memories for a lifetime and get passed on from one generation to another. You don’t tell your children about your boring mundane life at work. You tell your children about the fun you had during your travels.
Embrace life. Cherish your time. Create memories through experiences.
6. Move to another country
If traveling is not exciting enough, try moving to another country. Having lived in 4 different countries, I have to say that moving to another country teaches you a lot. You grow so much as a person because everywhere you go, you have to start from the ground up. You have to build a new network, make new friends, learn pretty much about everything around you and adapt yourself to it.
For one thing that I know for sure is that it is very exciting. Everything is new. It can be a little overwhelming at first especially if you have never moved far away from home before. But once you get settled, you’ll start falling in love with the new country again. It can become addictive as you will get addicted to the excitement of moving to somewhere new. Life never seems dull anymore unless you stop moving and stay still.
Take the opportunity if you can because it can be the sweetest experience of your life.
7. End your relationship
This might sound harsh but if your relationship doesn’t add anything to your life then it’s probably best to end it. You don’t need to be stuck in it just because you don’t want to hurt someone. A relationship is meant to be full of love, understanding, passion, inspiration, and excitement. Being in a beautiful relationship you want to make exciting plans with that person. A good relationship should bring you higher, not lower. A good partner should make you feel better, not down. If you’re not excited about making exciting plans with your partner, then maybe the passion has died and the only thing left is friendship. You have to ask yourself if you want to try to spice your life up with this person or you want to make a life-changing decision on your own.
I believe that it’s important to pick your partner wisely. Because not only will you be spending most of your time with the person, but your feelings, energy, and interests will also be influenced by him/her. If you want to live a positive life, date someone positive. If you want to live a fun and passionate life, date someone who’s fun and passionate about their life. If you want to be successful, date someone who also wants to be successful, or, someone who can support you to be successful.
It’s your happiness. Choose your partner wisely.
8. Find new friends and meet new people
Whether we like to admit it or not, sometimes we feel bored because we feel bored of our friends. They don’t inspire us or make us feel excited about life. They live a mundane life. They have no ambitions. They are happy with their routines. It is hard to get out of your circle of friends sometimes because they are true friends who have been there for you for all those years. However, we are only going to be as successful as the people we surround ourselves with. If we keep hanging out with average Joe, we will be average Joe. If we hang out with people who are passionate about their lives, we will be affected by their infectious energy and enthusiasm and feel inspired. If we hang out with smart people, we will learn a lot from them.
Know who you want to be. Imagine how you want to feel. Surround yourself with people who portray that. If you want your life to be exciting, hang out with those who live exciting lives.
Written by Mo Seetubtim.
Mo is the founder of The Happiness Planner, a planner that focuses on happiness, positive thinking, mindfulness, gratitude, and self-improvement. She also has a blog called BrandMentalist where she writes about modern life wisdoms, happiness, self-improvement, and entrepreneurship.